Monthly Archives: March 2012

3/6/12 – Unselfish Friends

“The one absolutely unselfish friend that man can have in this selfish world, the one that never deserts him, the one that never proves ungrateful or treacherous, is his dog.”- George Graham

Just yesterday I was all bummed out because I cut the corner too close pulling into my parking lot, scraping the side of my SUV. It was like I had done the worst thing in the world. I’m not sure why it was so important but I have been programmed that this is just AWFUL. No one got hurt, it’s JUST a car. So silly to get worked up about something so simple. The well-being of cars aren’t important at the end of the day.

Well I was reminded of what is truly important at about 2:30 this morning at the Vet ER with my baby, Bailey, when I was told she had cancer. I can’t imagine ever hearing this about an actual human child, this was tough enough. I sort of froze, I didn’t really understand what the Vet was saying. After I had asked her to say it to me again in like the 4th way possible, delirious from the lack of sleep and emotional roller-coaster of the last 3 hours, I understand what she really said with those words: “Your baby has a cancerous tumor, and it may have spread.” The words oncologist, chemo, tumors, sounded so familiar from when my dad was diagnosed 2 and a half years ago, but this was different. Both hard circumstances but two completely different relationships.

I got Bailey when I was 20 years old, just an irresponsible Sophomore at UT. She was roughly 6 months old, adopted from a local shelter. From that February day on she was my child, my baby girl. You don’t think about it when you first get a puppy that they will grow older and wiser with you and that a bond will be created that you have with no other person or thing. She is truly the most unselfish friend I have. I love this girl more than anything in this world. SHE is what matters, not my stupid car, or my computer, or jewelry or any thing else that I happen to own of monetary value. This was a huge reminder to me to live in the now and to appreciate what you love and what loves you, not taking any of that for granted. Love is what matters, relationships are what matters, and, if you’re lucky enough to have an unselfish friend of your own like I do, understand how special that is. Wish us luck! 🙂

I have linked a great article below about living in the now, please check it out.

3/5/12 – Doubt


“Doubt, of whatever kind, can be ended by action alone.” –  Thomas Carlyle

I think we all spend too much time worrying, wondering “why?” or “what if?” and creating doubt in our minds without having the courage to find out the truth. Like Carlyle says, all it takes is action to make all of this go away.Instead of assuming how others feel or what they think, ask them. Instead of doubting you are able to do something, try it! Just act. It will save you so much time. I do this every morning at boot camp. At first I doubted myself and my ability and there were some things I was scared to try. Turns out I can do most of them (outside the realm of my injuries of course) but I can.

Just thinking about the progress I wouldn’t haven’t made if I hadn’t acted on my doubts and worries makes me angry. Just do! Just ask! Just share your feelings! As they say, they only stupid question is the one that is never asked. This is the same thing. Be honest and give everything a shot. You don’t know the outcome of anything unless you try. I can promise you that we are all a little stronger, brighter and able than we give ourselves credit for. 

Great article linked below!

3/2/12 – Happy Birthday Dr. Seuss!

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” 

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” 

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.” 

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…” 
“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” 
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” 
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” 

“A person’s a person, no matter how small.” 
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, 
Nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” 

“Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope.” 

“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!” 
“In my world, everyone’s a pony and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies!” 

“Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!” 

“If things start happening, don’t worry, don’t stew, just go right along and you’ll start happening too.” 

“So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life’s A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you’ll move mountains.” 

“Only you can control your future.” 
“All alone! Whether you like it or not, alone is something you’ll be quite a lot!” 

“Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” 

“You’ll miss the best things if you keep your eyes shut.” 

“They say I’m old-fashioned, and live in the past, but sometimes I think progress progresses too fast!” 

“I’m afraid that sometimes you’ll play lonely games too. Games you can’t win ’cause you’ll play against you.” 

“You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.” 

“I know, up on top you are seeing great sights, but down here at the bottom we, too, should have rights.”
I got the picture below after boot camp this morning and it MADE MY DAY! Just my smurf celebrating a big day in his One Fish, Two Fish “hand”made shirt!

3/1/12 – Second Chances


“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”  – Mary Tyler Moore

“If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down.” – Mary Pickford

Some of you know my brother, some of you don’t, either way it doesn’t matter. What matters is what he has accomplished today. There is no need for me to air too much on the world wide web about his past but I will go on for days about his present and his future. Throughout the past 7 months he has been turning his life around and making the most of a second chance. There are many people that say there is no such thing as a second chance, and I disagree 100%. It’s what you do with that second, third, fourth chance. Moore is right, it’s how we grow, it’s how we learn and become stronger and braver than we were before. Pickford is right as well, failing isn’t falling down, it’s staying down.

Well my brother could have stayed down this time. Shoot, I can’t say I wouldn’t have if I were him. But he didn’t. He has gotten up, all on his own, and the progress he has made mentally and emotionally is awe-inspiring! He’s the only man I have left in my family and I am SO glad to have him back and in a great place in his life. I know he will only continue to rise from here and I can’t wait to be a part of his journey and see how he grows into the man I know he can be. We all make mistakes, take difficult paths, go through painful  experiences, but they don’t define us and we shouldn’t let them. They help to teach us about life and make us courageous well-rounded human beings. Without pain and challenge there can be no reward. I love you Nate and I can’t wait to be a part of your next chapter! Congratulations and Stay Strong!