Monthly Archives: January 2012

1/20/12 – Learning Wisely


“We begin to learn wisely when we’re willing  to see world from other people’s perspective.” 
― Toba BetaMaster of Stupidity

Today I’d like to share with you my daily emailer I receive from Moodscope. You can go to their page or just read it below.  It reminded me of the quote above, which I love. I think that we should all take time to think about how other’s view things, look at things from different perspectives. What we see as “reality” is not necessarily the “reality” of another. Be willing to learn wisely. Enjoy! Moodscope’s blog is brilliant today 🙂

“Imagine this. I ask you to close your eyes, then open them again after I’ve placed an object immediately in front of you.

As you focus on it, you see a white square whose sides are roughly a metre long.

That’s it. A white square.

Now I get someone else to stand a couple of metres to your right, and you ask them what they see.

‘No problem,’ they say, ‘it’s a white cube.’

Aha. From where you were standing it was a square. From where they were, though, it had depth. It was something else altogether.

You and I have our own views of the world. We see things through the filters of our experiences and sometimes (I have to confess) our prejudices and misjudgements.

And this is never more so than when it comes to trying to solve some huge problem or dilemma that you’re experiencing.

You see things as you think they are, convincing yourself that your way is the only way.

To discover the real truth, though, perhaps nothing beats learning from the view of someone who’s close, but just that little bit further away from it all than you are.”

Click the image below and check out the awesome perspective photographs I found on Google!

1/19/12 – To be Remembered


“If you wish to forget anything on the spot, make a note that this thing is to be remembered.”
– Edgar Allan Poe

In honor of what would have been Edgar Allan Poe’s 201st birthday, I decided to use one of his many quotes. I thought hard, and this is probably my favorite from him.

You know the hard times in your life, or the times when you are embarrassed or ashamed, the times you want to block out? Well, I agree with Mr. Poe. Those are the most important times to remember. They are the ones that teach us the most about life. I have one day in my life I wish I could forget, it was the day my dad passed away. It’s in my mind all the time and it is hard as hell. I know I talked about this the other day but there’s something specific I want to talk about from that day.

Those awesome friends I talked about? THEY are what I remember from that day. I try my damnedest to not remember what he looked like, or the pain, or the emptiness. What I remember is the following: the giant hug Melissa gave me as I walked out of the room hysterical, how she caught me and cried with me. From that I learned love and comfort and empathy. I remember Ashley and Anna standing behind her looking at me with eyes that spoke a million words about compassion and empathy and shared pain. I remember Lola and Ashley being there, two people that found out where I was and found me, once again teaching me how important I was to them.  I remember when my brother walked in and we shared a moment that is hard to explain that taught me about family and togetherness and forgiveness, what’s really important in life. The feeling of relief and completeness when Niki pulled up after leaving work, walking to me down the driveway, hugging me and telling me she new it wasn’t fair teaching me the meaning of “family” and reliability. I remember Vickie and her family not leaving our side and I remember every GREAT thing that people did for us; how quickly they showed up, the phone calls, the texts, the visitors, the food, the booze (let’s be real) and my girl friends all sitting in my mother’s bed helping to write his obituary. I remember ALL of that! So, the one day I immediately wanted to forget is the one day that I should and will always remember for the out pour of love and the positive energy my family and I felt. Noted: 8/29/09 is to be remembered!

I have linked my favorite Poe poem to this post it–check it out!

Annabel Lee is also one of my favorites by Poe!

1/18/12 – What big problems are you trying to solve?


“We don’t find happiness by looking within. We go outside and immerse in the world. We are called to a higher purpose by the inescapable circumstances that are laid out on our path. It’s our daily struggles that define us and bring out the best in us, and this lays down the foundation to continuously find fulfillment in what we do even when times get tough.

Happiness comes from the intersection of what you love, what you’re good at, and what the world needs. We’ve been told time and again to keep finding the first. Our schools helped developed the second. It’s time we put more thought on the third.

What big problems are you trying to solve?” – Oliver Segovia

A friend of mine sent me a link this morning to an AMAZING article, part of which is quoted above. I don’t know what else to say about it, other than I believe in it 150% and it has made me think more about the topic than I already do on a weekly basis. It gets to the roots of why I want to move back abroad and do something I am passionate about that will really make a difference in this world.

Click the link below (and by link I mean the picture), PLEASE! Read the article, maybe even two or three times. Really digest what it is saying and think to yourself, “What big problems am I trying to solve? If I’m not, what big problems would I like to try and solve and how am I going about doing this?”

1/17/12 – I love words


“I love words. I love to sing them and speak them and even now, I must admit, I have fallen into the joy of writing them.” — Anne Rice

I very well could have been the author of this quote. It’s true, even though I can’t sing well, I love words. I love to sing them, if you know me at all you know I love to speak them and am head over heals in love with the joy I get from writing them. That’s what this blog is all about. It calms me to write. It brings me peace, it makes sense of things that don’t make sense at first and it gives me an outlet to think. As Isaac Asimov said, “Writing, to me, is simply thinking through my fingers.”

Maybe I’m good at writing, maybe I’m not, either way, I recommend to anyone to write down their feelings, their thoughts, their emotions. Just try it once. See how you feel. Get yourself a journal and keep it all to yourself. It can become an extension of you that only you know about. I’d like to think you will find pleasure and comfort in this type of mental or emotional release. It’s like words hug me, like this picture, comforting my soul and all that I believe and feel; taking me to a place where there is no judgement and no consequences to your feelings and your thoughts. A place where it is okay not to be okay.

I have linked this picture to an awesome Jessie J song that reminds me of the last thing I just wrote. This is an awesome version from a New York  subway before she made it. Check it out!

1/13/12 – Laughter


“Laughter is an instant vacation.” – Milton Berle

I love the way I feel after a long hard laugh! It’s like I just worked out for HOURS! My face hurts, my stomach hurts, but I feel like a million dollars.  I feel like I just got back from an amazing mini vacation, and that’s exactly what it is. Laughter takes you away to a euphoric place, even if just for a moment, in just an instant, where nothing else matters in this world, where you have no obligations and there is no pain. Laughter cures even the hardest of days!

When you feel yourself getting worked up, stressed out, upset or overwhelmed, stop yourself. Take a moment to realize how unimportant it all is in the scheme of life, and, if you have to, watch a funny video on YouTube. Actually, watch the one linked below! I PROMISE, after you step away from what is troubling you for just a minute or two, you will feel refreshed, like you just got back from a vacation, and can approach your issues with a fresh start.

And, I mean it, click on this girl laughing! There is NO WAY you want laugh 🙂

1/12/12 – Forever Friends


“Even though we’ve changed and we’re all finding our own place in the world, we all know that when the tears fall or the smile spreads across our face, we’ll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us, nothing will ever change so much to the point where we’re not all still friends.”

I think we all have friends from growing up that will never go away. And when we use the term “best friends” the longest lasting of friends will always take the cake.  I know that I have a group of girl friends from home that will be there FOREVER, for the rest of my life, whenever I need them and that will support me no matter what.

You four girls know who you are. For the rest of my friends PLEASE do not take this post personally. I love ALL of my friends dearly and am truly the luckiest girl in the world to be able to call all of you my friends. That being said, if I may, I’d like to talk about them for a second. The memories I have are endless, they go back to being 12 and 13 years old. I still laugh about them and share them regularly. But there is one week of my life that will NEVER escape me, that I literally think of EVERY day.

I got a phone call while working on August 28, 2009 that I needed to fly home because my father was passing away. I immediately got a flight home and was on my way. When I landed I was picked up at the airport by these girls and then they went with me to Hospice to sit with my father, went and got my family food, picked one of them to stay the night with me, were there first thing in the morning with coffee and breakfast and they didn’t leave my side for the next 4 days. They missed work and put their lives on hold for me. They came to my side when a tear was shed, regardless of what was going on in their own lives! Their families were there as well and the support has never stopped.  That, my friends, is TRUE love and RAW friendship, in the purest and most sincere form. And for these 4 girls and their families I am FOREVER grateful.

I can hardly wait to spend the weekend with all of you, adding more memories to my book! I Love You Niki, Ashley, Melissa and Christy, and THANK YOU!

(And Happy Birthday today to Melissa, Amy and Blaine!!!) Any of you BHS folks remember the song linked below???

1/11/12 – You gotta have faith


“At the end of the day faith is a funny thing. It turns up when you don’t really expect it. It’s like one day you realize that the fairy tale may be slightly different than you dreamed. The castle, well, it may not be a castle. And it’s not so important happy ever after, just that it’s happy right now. See once in a while, once in a blue moon, people will surprise you , and once in a while people may even take your breath away.”

– Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy

Some of you probably expected this post to be religious while some of you know me well enough to know that it would have a different twist. When I think of the word “faith” I don’t personally think of religious faith. By definition, other than religious faith in a deity, faith is “allegiance to duty or a person,  fidelity to one’s promises, sincerity of intentions; firm belief in something for which there is no proof: complete trust.” That’s what I think she is talking about in this quote.

Faith is a funny thing. You just have to keep it, with no backing, no validity, just because you believe in your heart of hearts that what you believe in is real. Because you want something so bad you can’t imagine not having it. Faith is belief in the fairy tale we have always dreamed of for ourselves. I think we feel like if we don’t get the exact picture we painted when we were younger, that the fairy tale was all a facade, but I think it’s the exact opposite. Blessings come in disguise, your “fairy tale” will appear different than you ever imagined and you will be surprised to see how it all pans, what its true colors are and where your life takes you. Because, I believe, if you have faith in your own happiness, that it comes to you when you least expect it, through people you never gave the benefit of the doubt and in a way you never imagined. And the thought of that takes my breath away! The belief in knowing that when I least expect it, my life can be perfect because of its imperfections.

Finding happiness, love, trust and contentment in the unexpected is what I have faith in. And it’s what keeps me believing in ME and the life I lead! I have complete trust, with NO proof, that when I leave this world I will have a smile on my face and an amazing legacy to leave behind with no questions left unanswered and no doors left unopened.

“Because you gotta have faith…” (Who doesn’t love a little George Michael?)