Monthly Archives: October 2012

10/31/12 – It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown

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“Never jump into a pile of leaves with a wet sucker.” – Linus, “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown” 

It’s funny the things you can learn from a quote in a children’s film. Although, I can’t say that “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown” is just for children either. I wanted to use a quote today that is related to Halloween but has a broader meaning, to me at least.

“Never jump into a pile of leaves with a wet sucker,” Linus sys in the movie. For obvious reasons, this is GREAT advice. Your sucker would be covered in leaves and inedible. But what about in real life? This quote, to me, speaks about vulnerability. Never jump into a situation or relationship when you aren’t ready, when you are too vulnerable, when your “sucker is wet.” Give yourself time to approach each new endeavor, each new relationship and each new stage of your life without hesitation. It’s not bad to be a little vulnerable, by nature we all are and I think that beautiful things come out of this, but also be sure to guard your heart until it’s healed and your mind until is clear of unhealthy thoughts and influences.

Click on the picture below to watch this part of the movie 🙂 And have a HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!

 

10/30/12 – Weathering the Storm

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“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” ― Haruki Murakami

 

I found the blog post from Moodscope.com rather perfect for today, and I thought I’d share it withe all of you. I get this in my inbox EVERY morning.  You should too. It’s a great way to start the day. Sign up to receive Jon’s insight here: http://www.moodscope.com/login

“For me, driving through countryside shortly after a devastating fire was a sad experience. Everything was black. The few trees left standing were stunted and bare. The acrid stench of sooty smoke gripped my throat.

It was easy to imagine that there would be no future for this territory, that its end had come.

But so very often this is not the case, because after the rain, after nature has worked its incredible wonders, small shoots of green appear. Then slowly, steadily, gradually, the environment returns to normal. Sometimes it does even better than this – the effects of the fire may enrich the soil, resulting in a greener and more pleasant land one day not so far down the road.

Someone comparing before and after pictures might be led to declare the area resilient, and indeed this is exactly what it has demonstrated.

But note: the fire still happened. If we’d been there when it was burning, we’d have seen only destruction. Resilience didn’t mean the vegetation was fire-proof. It didn’t somehow repel the flames.

No, the resilience is what came later. It’s the way in which the environment dealt with change, accepting it, kind of shrugging its shoulders and saying ‘well that was a mess – better get on with fixing things now though’.

I think we can learn from this. Resilience and being able to bounce back from adversity are tremendous qualities, but usually there’s no way to prevent the bad stuff happening at the time: the storm must simply be weathered. However it’s what comes later that counts, and an acceptance that things are as they are can go a very long way to giving you the strength to believe that they’ll get better again.

Surprisingly, after a forest fire there’s nearly always still a forest.” — Jon Cousins, http://www.moodscope.com

 

I was talking with a friend this morning about Hurricane Sandy and all natural disasters. I find them humbling. No doubt there is heartache and pain and unbelievable damage to be fixed, but it is also a reminder to all of us on the earth that we are NOT as powerful as we think and we are NOT in charge. Mother Nature rules our lives and we have to remember that, and remember to do our part to respect her and learn from the obstacles she throws at us. Thinking of those around this world who are recovering from ALL of Mother Nature’s natural disasters as well as those that are weathering their own individual storms. Hang on and push forward as you weather the “storm,” because, as Jon Cousins said, “The storm must simply be weathered.”

10/24/12 – Are you ready?

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“Talent alone won’t make you a success. Neither will being in the right place at the right time, unless you are ready. The most important question is: ‘Are your ready?'” – Johnny Carson 

Yesterday would have been Johnny Carson’s 87th birthday so I figured I would use one of his quotes I love. No one else effects your timing but you. When you ‘re ready, you’re ready and if you aren’t, you aren’t. It’s that simple. It may seem like the right place at the right time, but that’s because it is. It’s the right place and right time for YOU, the time and place when you are READY! We are all talented and many of us able to do all that we want and aspire to do, but if we aren’t ready you, then it isn’t yet the right time and place.

I think for years I wasn’t ready for some things in my life, but, you know what, in many ways, parts of me and my life have changed and I think “I’m Ready!” … Maybe not ready for it all, but ready for some new successes and milestones in my life.

To be continued…

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10/22/12 – Why Friends May Be Your Ticket to Living to 100

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“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Love this article below. I have also linked it to the title below. See, it’s HEALTHY to be social 🙂

Why Friends May Be Your Ticket to Living to 100

David R. Hamilton, Ph. D
Posted: 10/20/2012 12:30 am

Most of us accept that the secret to living to a very old age is either down to genetics or lifestyle. In reality, it’s a bit of both, with genetics actually only contributing 20-30 percent of the likelihood of living to 100.

Ultimately, lifestyle is the bit that we can control, so most longevity research (research into lifespan) has focused upon this. Most of us know that eating a diet rich in fruit and vegetables, not smoking, drinking in moderation, and reducing stress in our lives is the way to go.

But one additional vital ingredient is missing from this menu. That ingredient is friends!

It turns out that the positive effect of regular social contact to a persons’ health is about as strong as the effect of blood pressure, smoking, alcohol habits, obesity, and eating a healthy diet.

Take, for instance, the following two pieces of research:

In 2010, researchers at Brigham Young University published a summary analysis of 148 different studies that involved 308,849 people. They were of an average age of 63.9 years and hailed from four different continents, and the study dealt with the impact of social relationships on mortality risk.

The conclusion was startling: People who enjoyed strong social ties had a 50 percent increased likelihood of survival over a measured period of 7.5 years compared with people with weak or no social ties.

And a 2010 Australian study that looked at 188 people over the age of 100 found that having a close network of family and friends was a highly significant factor in their lifespan.

Think of it in this way. Take the health of our planetary ecosystem. It needs biodiversity — that is, a wide variety of different kinds of species. When there’s too little biodiversity, the “immune system” of the planet is compromised and the health of the ecosystem suffers. Similarly, having too little social contact compromises our health, whereas a diverse array of social connections improves our health.

We are wired for social contact. Our health thrives when we connect with each other and suffers when we are lonely. It seems that at the heart of all things, being connected sustains life.

So one of the secrets to longer lifespan may be to get connected. It might mean having more regular contact with family or friends. For some, it might mean joining a club, taking up line dancing, or even starting a language class. It can mean making more of an effort to chat with neighbors or inviting friends around for dinner. It might even mean going out of your way to help others in need on a regular basis.

There are many ways in our lives that we can improve how much we connect with others. When we do, we do ourselves a favor, but we do our family, friends, or anyone else we connect with, a favor too.

www.drdavidhamilton.com

For more by David R. Hamilton, Ph.D., click here.

For more on emotional wellness, click here.

10/19/12 – The Perks of Being a Wallflower

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“We accept the love we think we deserve.” – The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chybosk

So I haven’t seen this movie yet, but I just bought it on my iPad and plan on reading it over the next week and then going to the theater afterwards. I know that I’ve heard quotes similar to this before, but I keep seeing this clip from the film and it gets me every time. I have linked the clip to the image below, I love Emma Watson in this role and am looking forward to seeing the movie.

Back to the quote. “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I often hear friends and even myself saying, “Why does he treat me like that?” “Why doesn’t he want to spend more time with me?” And so on and so forth. Well, I think this is true, we DO accept the love we think we deserve. It goes back to loving and respecting yourself. If you don’t love and respect yourself then you obviously don’t think you deserve anything more from others in your life. I’m not sure if you have seen the movie “The Wedding Date,” it’s a pretty fabulous chick flick I must say, well in this movie one of the characters says something very similar, “Every woman has the exact love life she wants.” I agree with this and think it goes hand in hand with the Wallflower quote.

Think about this when you judge yourself and are hard on yourself. Don’t seek love from others that you don’t have for yourself.