Monthly Archives: July 2012

7/18/12 – Take the Time to Water your Own Grass

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“You may think the grass is greener on the other side. But if you take the time to water your own grass it would be just as green.”

This quote is double edged to me, teaches me two things: 1- Don’t compare yourself to others. We are all on our own journey; 2- Stop taking care of everyone else and helping them to better themselves and their lives. Start helping yourself and make yourself better or you’ll get left behind in your own life.

It’s time to stop focusing on every one else and time to start focusing more on ME! I swear I have to constantly be reminded of this. Gotta “water my own grass” and stop trying to make sure everyone else’s grass is maintained.

7/10/12 – Choose which ones to surf!

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“Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can shoose which one to surf.”

I haven’t written in a few days because I went out of town. Life is pretty busy right now but never an excuse not to share my favorite quotes. This quote is truer now more than ever I think. I have a lot of different emotions and feelings going on across all areas of my life but I need to choose which ones to surf, which ones are real and which ones will help to make me the happiest, the healthiest and the closest to reaching my goals 🙂 It’s one of those times when I have to feel with my soul and leave my mind and heart to do their job once I have decides which wave is the right one to take.

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7/3/12 – Your Feelings Matter

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“I let it go. It’s like swimming against the current. It exhausts you. After a while, whoever you are, you just have to let go, and the river brings you home.” 
― Joanne Harris, Five Quarters of the Orange

This quote reminds me of an article I read yesterday,  “Your Feelings Matter” by Mike Robins. I have pasted part of it below. The rest can be found here. In order to let something go that is no longer healthy, making you happy and that exhausts you, you have to honor your own feelings. I was just faced with this in my own life this past week. It’s not easy to hand over control to the “river,” but there are times it is necessary. Mike Robins shares how to honor your feelings below. By following these 5 steps, I was able to ‘let it go’ and go with the natural current of my heart and my soul. Ironically, it’s bringing me home today!

“Here are a few things you can do to enhance your capacity to honor your own feelings:

1. Be Real About How You Truly Feel — The first step of any process is always about being real, first and foremost with ourselves.  Even if we feel unclear or uncomfortable with a specific situation or certain set of emotions or desires, the more willing we are to be real about what we truly feel and want, the more ability we’ll have to honor ourselves and be authentic with others.  Making it a practice of getting in touch with our true feelings is essential.  A great way to do this is through journaling. It’s not about justifying how we feel to anyone else, it’s about being honest with ourselves.

2. Stop Judging Yourself — One of the biggest things that can get in our way in life, in general and specifically when it comes to feeling our feelings and expressing our desires, is self-judgment.  We think to ourselves, “I shouldn’t feel this way,” or “If I share this, they will think I’m a terrible person.”  We use these self-critical thoughts to suppress our true feelings, which can have significantly negative consequences on us and others. What if we just allowed ourselves to be real and to honor what’s true for us in the moment, without judging it?

3. Give Yourself Permission to Feel — Because of our self-judgment, we sometimes don’t give ourselves permission to feel… especially certain emotions.  As human beings we tend to have a hierarchy of emotions — liking the “good” ones (love, joy, gratitude, peace, etc.) and not liking the “bad” ones (anger, fear, hurt, powerlessness, etc.).  However, at the deepest level, all human emotions have value and can benefit us if we’re willing to feel them in an authentic and healthy way.  Giving ourselves permission to feel what we’re feeling is critical to our ability to honor and move through our emotions in a way that serves us, our relationships, and our life.

 4. Let Go of Your “Story” — Many of us, myself included, are attached to our “story.”  We love all of the drama and all of the details that make up the relationships, situations, and circumstances in our lives (both past and present).  While our life story, as well as the details of specific relationships and circumstances in our lives, is important at some level, too often we get caught in the story and all the drama, which actually takes us out of our emotional experience.  Where we have real power is in feeling our feelings, not talking about them, rationalizing them, or explaining them — but in simply feeling them.  Human emotions are not sustainable — especially if they are authentically felt. It only takes about a minute or two to genuinely feel and move through an emotion.  However, when we attach an emotion to a story, we don’t allow ourselves to truly feel it and thus can keep it stuck in place.

 5. Get Emotional Support — As important as our emotions are to our lives, our wellbeing, and our relationships, sadly we don’t get a lot of emotional training in life (through school, at work, and in general), and we don’t often have built-in, healthy emotional support mechanisms in our daily lives.  We live in a world that is primarily focused on action, results, and appearances — none of which has anything to do with our emotional experience (even though our emotional experience is not only one of the most important aspects of our lives, but is what drives much of what we do and produce in life).  There are, however, many ways we can find or enhance our emotional support.  Most of us have certain emotional support structures in our lives that we’ve set up for ourselves, consciously or unconsciously.  The key is for us to utilize these in a consistent and authentic way, as well as to make sure they are empowering us to honor ourselves and our emotional experiences in life.”

7/2/12 – I Believe…

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“I Believe… That just because two people argue, It doesn’t mean they don’t love each other. And just because they don’t argue, It doesn’t mean they do love each other. I Believe… That we don’t have to change friends if We understand that friends change. I Believe…. That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that. I Believe… That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love. I Believe…. That you can do something in an instant That will give you heartache for life.. I Believe… That it’s taking me a long time To become the person I want to be. I Believe… That you should always leave loved ones with Loving words. It may be the last time you see them.. I Believe… That you can keep going long after you think you can’t. I Believe… That we are responsible for what We do, no matter how we feel. I Believe…. That either you control your attitude or it controls you. I Believe… That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.  I Believe… That money is a lousy way of keeping score. I Believe… That my best friend and I, can do anything, or nothing and have the best time. I Believe… That sometimes the people you expect to kick you When you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.. I Believe… That sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, But that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel. I Believe… That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had And what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated. I Believe… That it isn’t always enough, to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself. I Believe… That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief. I Believe… That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, But, we are responsible for who we become. I Believe… That you shouldn’t be so eager to find Out a secret. It could change your life Forever. I Believe… Two people can look at the exact same Thing and see something totally different. I Believe… That your life can be changed in a matter of Hours by people who don’t even know you. I Believe…. That even when you think you have no more to give, when A friend cries out to you – you will find the strength to help. I Believe… That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being. I Believe… That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon. I Believe…”

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