Monthly Archives: February 2012

2/12/12 – The Greatest Love of All


“The greatest love of all, Is easy to achieve , Learning to love yourself , It is the greatest love of all…” – 

“The Greatest Love of All,”  Whitney Houston

Yes, it is sad, devastating, heart-breaking and down-right disappointing to lose a gift like Whitney Houston so young. The energy and sadness expressed on TV, the internet, social media sites, text messages and casual conversations reminds me of almost 3 years ago when we lost Michael Jackson. It makes you wonder the pressure society and the media put on these stars. Would I be able to handle that pressure? Maybe, maybe not. But I think it has a lot to do with the age and maturity of people when they come into the lime light. I guess that’s why Oprah said, “If you come to fame not understanding who you are, it will define who you are.”

I think one of my favorite quotes that defines the good and evil of fame is by William Blake, “The strongest poison ever known came from Caesar’s laurel crown.” I think we forget that even though celebrities are talented beyond our understanding, that they have a gift that most of us will never possess, that they are just people too. We define them by their gift instead of by the people they truly are. Is that society’s fault?  Not 100%, but I think when these stars start so young it is the responsibility of the adults around them to help keep them grounded, reminding them to love themselves and to keep them on a positive track until they grow into self-understanding adults.

The reason this death upsets me the most is the role that drugs play in so many of the deaths of young celebrities. I know it hasn’t been said what killed Whitney, but we do know the role drugs played in her life previously. We accept drug use and fame as two peas in a pod. We see it normal and okay that pop stars, rappers, actors and artists use drugs and we even pride them on how it helps them to create inspiring “art.” This has to stop. It is not okay for anyone to suffer from such an addiction. Addicts are hiding so much deep down and suffering inside from pain we can’t begin to understand. Instead of accepting this and sometimes applauding it or cracking jokes about it, let’s make an active effort as a society to change the image that has become the norm in this world. I’ve personally been affected by drug use in my life and it is unreal the power that drugs have on a person and it’s too painful to watch. I was lucky enough not to lose the one I love to addiction but what about the family, friends, fans and admirers of such talents like: Amy Winehouse, Kurt Cobain, Michael Jackson, Heath Ledger, Whitney Houston, Janis Joplin, Jim Morrison, Brittany Murphy, Jimi Hendrix, Judy Garland, River Phoenix, Anna Nicole Smith, and the list goes on and on.

The song “The Greatest Love of All” by Whitney Houston has a very powerful message. I have pasted half of the song below and linked the performance to her picture. Let’s remind our children about the important things in life and to love themselves. It’s so sad to me that she could sing a song about loving yourself when she struggled with that herself.

“I believe the children are our are future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be
Everybody searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfill my needs
A lonely place to be
So I learned to depend on me

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity
Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all”

2/7/12 – “Don’t Put Anyone out of Your Heart”


“It was an important reminder not to cast anyone out of our hearts, for in the process we are casting out ourselves. If we feel affected by someone being dismissive, critical or hurtful, it is invariably because there is a hook in us for that negativity to grab hold of, a place where it can land and trigger all our hidden feelings of unworthiness, insecurity, and self-doubt.” – Ed and Deb Shapiro

This is from an article titled “Don’t Put Anyone out of Your Heart” from Huffington Post today. It hits home so personally for me TODAY that I don’t even want to share my story, I just want to share the article. It is VERY powerful and I truly hope that all of you take the time to read the link attached to the picture below. To fully understand the meaning, you need to read the article.

Just remember, when someone seems like they are being dismissive, critical or hurtful, it’s because what they have said or done is hitting hidden feelings of your own allowing them to be intensified, causing these negative reactions and exposing insecurities, self-doubt or some other ignored emotions.

“Metta asks that we stay caring, that we keep our heart open to the situation we are struggling with and all the accompanying annoyance and anger, and hold ourselves with gentle tenderness. Then, amazing change is possible.”


2/6/12 – Be Yourself


“This is my voice and it’s been hard, for me. I’ve been at it for awhile and I’ve tried to sort of shrink my voice down to fit. But, I decided for this show I was just gonna just sing like myself.” – Chris Mann, “The Voice” (NBC)

I watched “The Voice” on my DVR this morning while getting ready for work and a man named Chris Mann sang a beautiful opera song. Afterwards, after he had been praised and applauded, Cee Lo Green asked him why he chose the song. The quote above was his response. For so long he tried to fit the mold of what was common, average, and he refused to do that anymore.

I think a lot of us do this. I, myself, have actually been thinking about this a lot lately. I feel that I’m very different when it comes to a lot of things, I don’t fit the “norm” in our society. And, instead of always embracing these differences and basking in what makes me me, I sometimes hold back in fear of how I will be viewed. This man inspired me this morning, really hit a cord inside and reminded me of one of my favorite Ralph Waldo Emerson quotes,  “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” I’m vowing to make this a priority in my life, to always be myself and not let the world try and make me something that I am not. I think we should all do this because we’re beautiful the way we are.

If you click this image you can watch his audition. Just awesome!

2/5/12 – Courage to ask questions


“We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.” – Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

I recently made an assumption because personal insecurities stopped me from asking questions to find out the truth. If we would stop being scared to just ask for the truth we could put an end to the drama created from making false assumptions. It takes courage to look past your insecurities like this but it pays off huge in the long run.

If you feel like something is off and want to know why, just ask? You will never know the truth if you don’t ask! Believe me, someone would much rather you approach them about something that is bothering you than be approached later by false assumptions you have made about them. Nip it in the bud from the get go and go from there.

2/2/12 – Education


“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” ― Nelson Mandela

I was upset to watch a video today from a news site I frequent. In the video high school students were asked some basic questions to which they didn’t know the answer. For example, “How many stars are on the US flag?”  “Who is the vice president of the US?” etc. Instead of laughing along with the students laughing at themselves, thinking the lack of knowledge was funny, I got tears in my eyes. I was so disappointed. I know that this video was of only a few of America’s high school students but I just couldn’t help but think this was a decent representation of the future leaders of our country.

Education is so important and it is what our country needs to help keep us alive and change for the better. I really hope that  America’s youth realizes how important education is in this world and it is COOL to want to learn and to continue to educate themselves. Because the way the world is headed these days, we could use some more educated folks! And, that, is my public service annoucement.

You can find the video Here.

2/1/12 – Who I am


“Maybe our favorite quotations say more about us than about the stories and the people we’re quoting.”  

– John Green

An old roommate of mine sent me this quote last night and I just love it. If you think about it, the quotes we love really tell a lot about who we are, where we have been, what we have been through, how we feel and what we strive to do or be. Sort of brilliant! I suppose I relate to every quote I share with all of you in this blog which means that each of you gets an inside into the heart of me. Saying that aloud makes me realize how vulnerable I am by writing this blog and sharing it with the world (not that the whole world reads it, but they could haha).

Well, then welcome to me! I hope that by sharing me with you, you can see yourself and others a little clearer. Hopefully someone will quote me one day, even just once. Thinking that something I am known for saying may some day define a piece of someone else gives me chills. Like they say, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery and I would be flattered.

I have linked this awesome picture that I found below with Jessica Andrew’s, “Who I am.” This blog shares who I am…Welcome!

1/31/12 – Believe them…


“When people show you who they are, believe them.” – Maya Angelou

Someone I cared about and loved very much told me, “I’m going to hurt you.” And instead of believing them I said, no you aren’t, don’t say that. I didn’t believe them, because I didn’t want to. But, ultimately they hurt me and I have no one to blame but myself. I didn’t believe when they said who they were and waited until they showed me. And, even then, I didn’t believe, and let it happen numerous times. What a HUGE Life Lesson Maya Angelou shares that is so powerful to me.

Just think about what this quote means. Trust, believe and “listen” when others are “telling” you who they really are. They know themselves better than you do. It’s actually a tough thing to do and isn’t always verbal, but when someone truly opens themselves up to you and shows you their truth, don’t ask questions, just trust, believe and honor their honesty. Trust in what you feel, see and hear to be true.

Please take time to watch the video linked below of Maya speaking with Oprah about this Life Lesson.