Monthly Archives: March 2012

3/20/12 – Now and Then

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“Things will happen in your life that you can’t stop. But that’s no reason to shut out the world.” – Crazy Pete, Now and Then 

I whole heatedly believe in this quote. First of all, AMAZING movie! Second, what a beautiful way to view life. We have no control over most of what happens in this life but we do have control over how we respond to it. I personally don’t think that shutting out the world helps at all. At first, I know that this is a normal reaction to traumatic situations, but you can’t hide from the world and keep all your feelings and emotions in forever. It will drive you crazy and make you sick.

You only get one life, whether it’s an easy ride or the most challenging thing in this world, you have to keep living it, fighting it, rising above it, because wasting the one chance you get to experience this world is a true tragedy and I can’t think of anything more traumatic than that. “When I find myself in times of trouble, mother Mary comes to me, speaking words of wisdom, let it be.” Just let it be and when you are in times of trouble, welcome all the help and support you can get. That’s what it is there for, to build you up when you can’t do it yourself. So keep moving, take support when it’s offered and know that it is okay to shut down for a sec to revamp and start back up again just a little stronger than before.

Easier said than done, I know, but it’s a lot easier to fight a battle with your own personal army of family and friends than it is to fight it alone!

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3/19/12 – Turning Negative Emotions to Positive

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“Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good.”

That’s all, just a thought, speaks for itself.  But I can tell you this, I’ve had some negative thoughts taking over lately and when I got to the bottom of what I needed and wanted, I turned my attention to that, focused on that and then worked with those around me on how to get it. Won’t lie….”ohhh, ohhhh, sometimes, I get a good feelin’… yea!” (Linked below)

The power of positive emotions, thoughts and feelings is crazy! Think about your thoughts. Are they positive? If not, why not? Make an effort. You are the ONLY one that has control over your thoughts and your happiness.

3/15/12 – The Condition of Love

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“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert Heinlein

You know what’s funny about this? I was just having the conversation the other week about how I get my energy from being around others. Many will say, “Go home, relax, recharge.” When really I need the opposite, I need to get out, soak up the positive and healthy energy of others. When others are happy it makes me happy. It’s just who I am. I’m happiest when my friends and family and others around me are happy.

So, I guess what I’m saying is that I love people! Like, I genuinely just love all people. Yes, there are times when I say, “Man I hate people!” But I don’t mean it (hate is too strong of a word to mean it, maybe I shall use a different word next time), I’m just annoyed with ignorance at the moment or maybe just taking out my mood on others. Because when it comes down to it I find the uniqueness of individuals to be so intriguing and fulfilling. I love to learn about any and everyone, their interests, their backgrounds, how their minds work, etc. Even seeing strangers around me laugh and be happy, makes me happy. I LOVE it! This all sort of completes me in a corny Jerry McGuire kind of way, it’s hard to explain. People are just beautiful to me and it is their quirkiness and possibly the things they consider flaws that I love the most.

So “love,” here, in this quote, to me, isn’t romantic love necessarily, just LOVE in any term of the word! I’m in love with people haha As funny as it may sound, It’s a condition I have.

3/14/12 – Never give up

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“Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about.”

I was going through something recently and it was causing me such emotional and mental stress that I almost just gave up. I didn’t want to think about it anymore, everything I did was making it all worse and I figured it would be easier to just give up than try any longer…Then I came across this quote! It pretty much slapped me across the face haha

This is so right. If you can’t go a day without thinking about something, then it is important enough to fight for. I couldn’t go a day without thinking about this so why try to fight against it when I could use that energy to fight for something that was important enough to consume my thoughts.

You know, growing up playing sports, we were always taught to NEVER GIVE UP! My parents taught me the same thing at home and my teachers echoed it in the classroom. It seemed a little easier when I was younger. Life wasn’t as serious, I didn’t have as much responsibility, defeat wasn’t as piercing and I didn’t get exhausted as quickly as I do now. But I’m still the same person inside, and I have to remind myself that I have it in me not to give up on the things that are important to me. I have to let the energetic, strong and perseverant kid in me take over when I don’t think I can do it alone. I was fearless as a child! No battle was too big. So what has changed? Nothing! I mean, if I can’t win the internal battle, how will I ever survive in this crazy world?

I’ve linked the new song “I Won’t Give Up,” by Jason Mraz. If you haven’t heard it, you SHOULD!

3/9/12 – One Step at a Time

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“One step at a time.”

An old friend of mine, Katie (Solomon) Seamon, sent me a bracelet after my father passed engraved on the inside with the phrase, “One day at a time.” I wear it ALL the time and every time I read that it helps to bring me back to my center. Somehow I allowed myself to forget about it this week, until I read the quote above in my weekly Moodscope email just now. Not sure what I’d do without my daily email from http://www.moodscope.com. This week has been TOUGH! When it rains, it pours, and it frickin’ POURED this week for me. So my Moodscope email today was PERFECT and JUST what I needed 🙂 Here it is:

Say you needed to untangle a ball of string but just as you began, you inadvertently dropped it into the kitchen sink, full of sudsy water.

Then the bulb went, plunging the room into complete darkness.

Now rather than attempting to solve all three of these issues simultaneously, the answer is almost certainly to uncouple and prioritise.

Dry your hands. Fix the light. Take the string out of the water and probably allow it to dry, too.

Then – and only then – have a go at untangling it.

It seems pretty obvious to tackle a hypothetical situation in this way, so why do we fail to follow a similar course when we’ve multiple issues occupying our minds?

Why do we believe we can solve them all at once?

Why do we persist in thinking that they’re all somehow connected?

It’s easy to imagine that because everything’s not as it should be in one part of our life that the same reasons affect other areas. But this isn’t always the way.

When you’ve multiple worries, it’s not always easy to uncouple one from the other.

Not easy, but almost certainly the only way to move forward.

One step at a time.

Check out the link below, it’s a penguin webcam that my friend Betsy introduced me to this week. I tell you what, if you need to smile, here’s your fix 🙂

3/8/12 – KONY 2012

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“Where you live shouldn’t determine whether you live.” – Jason Russell, Co-Founder, Invisible Children, KONY 2012

I’m pretty positive that the majority of you have seen the KONY 2012 video by now. If by chance you have not, you must. It’s what life is all about I think, helping others to live happy, free lives…We all deserve that. While I watched Jason Russell’s video yesterday this quote stuck with me and I paused the video, typed it into a blog post and saved it immediately. I’ve said this many a time in conversations about helping other countries or when people judge people by their culture or on why they are who they are based on where they were born. Where we are born shouldn’t define us. Every human that is born is important and deserves a chance at life.

PLEASE, I’m begging you, watch this video, share this video, sign the petition I have linked below, because technology can be used for so much good if we use it right and use it wisely. Let your voice be heard, be the voice for so many that aren’t able to have one, and help unite to fight against Joseph Kony and the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA). If we can help to stop this man and the evil he has done just think of what we can do if we work together. Shoot, just watch it to be reminded that there are good people in this world that want to help people. If that’s all you get out of it, I’m fine with that too, but I doubt that’s where your heart and mind will end with this.

This all being said, of course there has been criticism of the video and the mission. But I’ve done my research and I still support this effort whole-heartily. The video is linked below:

WE PETITION THE OBAMA ADMINISTRATION TO:

Help bring Joseph Kony to justice. Continue and expand the necessary support and aid until Kony is captured. Kony 2012.

Continue and expand all military and financial aid that is already being provided for the capture of Joseph Kony, Ugandan war criminal. A pledge by the United States government to continue this aid until he is captured and not a moment sooner.

Sign the Petition by clicking HERE.

3/7/12 – Learning from Jealousy

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“We react to our insecurities. So know and deal with them proactively and gracefully.” – Jennifer Hamady

I read this article this morning and pulled this quote from it. The whole article is great and instead of trying to relate my own stories to you about it I figured I would just share it below. It can also be found here.

Learning From Jealousy

Posted: 03/ 7/2012 7:00 am, Huffington Post, Healthy Living Section
by Jennifer Hamady

There are some truly great things going on in my studio. Lots of Broadway roles, lots of TV appearances, lots of success.

And lots of concerns about jealousy.

You’d think that in the face of such big victories, a little envy coming at them would be small potatoes to these talented men and women. But it’s not. It cuts them to the bone. Every time.

Thankfully, something wonderful lies in wait here. Jealousy — though many people resist it — is a great teacher. One of life’s greatest, in fact.

Here’s what jealousy has to say, when we allow ourselves to set aside our defenses and really listen:

  • Not everyone will like you. And that’s OK.
  • Compassion, in every situation and under every circumstance, is your greatest tool.
  • We react to our insecurities. So know and deal with them proactively and gracefully.

Let’s take a look at each.

What is it about singers — correction, people — that makes us think that everyone will like us when we succeed? Or at least this is our sincere hope, no matter what we may say in interviews, to our families and on Facebook.

It’s not possible. So give it up. Your purpose in your career and on this planet is not to be perfect or to have everyone love you. You are not the exception to the rule on this; try and name one person in the history of the world who was universally loved. It’s not happening. Someone, somewhere, is writing an article about the “lie” of Mother Teresa and the “myth” of Gandhi.

Other people have their own opinions, tastes and reactions, and newsflash: You are not in control of them! No amount of “perfect” (read: delusion) will change this. So please let it go.

Sadly, many don’t. No matter their level of fame or success, I’ve watched countless men and women stew and rot in the incomprehension of why everyone doesn’t love them. Others don’t even bother to go for their dreams or to try much of anything. They sit on the sidelines of life in an effort to avoid being criticized — or heaven forbid, not liked — rather than play full-out.

Which brings us to the next lesson. Jealousy — when it is directed at you — is a sign that you are inspiring people to look at the distance between where they are and where they want to be in their own lives. It may not feel good, but it is an honor in its own way. No one’s jealous of the guy sitting on his butt watching TV all day. No one is jealous of someone down on her luck. We’re jealous of those who have want we want, whether it be material things, success or relationships… as well as the courage to go for them.

If you keep this in mind the next time you experience jealousy, it should more than soften the blow. In fact, it should breed compassion… which you can then use to make a difference.

Finally, jealousy is an invitation for us to explore our own limitations and feelings of inadequacy. “Do I deserve to be here? Am I good enough? Am I prepared?” These questions have lived inside of you for a long, long time. Don’t fault those who are bringing them to light. It was never their job to provide the answers, only to get you consciously asking the questions.

When you do, you’ll stop caring so much about what people say. And eventually, you may even appreciate and thank them for it. There is nothing so powerful — and inspiring — as a person who can hear and utilize the constructive criticism of others. When judgment is warranted, it becomes useful. When it is unfounded, compassion is there waiting.

Every situation is an opportunity to learn if you’re willing to see it as such. Dealing with jealousy — whether directed at someone else or at you — is no exception.