Monthly Archives: March 2012

3/14/12 – Never give up

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“Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about.”

I was going through something recently and it was causing me such emotional and mental stress that I almost just gave up. I didn’t want to think about it anymore, everything I did was making it all worse and I figured it would be easier to just give up than try any longer…Then I came across this quote! It pretty much slapped me across the face haha

This is so right. If you can’t go a day without thinking about something, then it is important enough to fight for. I couldn’t go a day without thinking about this so why try to fight against it when I could use that energy to fight for something that was important enough to consume my thoughts.

You know, growing up playing sports, we were always taught to NEVER GIVE UP! My parents taught me the same thing at home and my teachers echoed it in the classroom. It seemed a little easier when I was younger. Life wasn’t as serious, I didn’t have as much responsibility, defeat wasn’t as piercing and I didn’t get exhausted as quickly as I do now. But I’m still the same person inside, and I have to remind myself that I have it in me not to give up on the things that are important to me. I have to let the energetic, strong and perseverant kid in me take over when I don’t think I can do it alone. I was fearless as a child! No battle was too big. So what has changed? Nothing! I mean, if I can’t win the internal battle, how will I ever survive in this crazy world?

I’ve linked the new song “I Won’t Give Up,” by Jason Mraz. If you haven’t heard it, you SHOULD!

3/9/12 – One Step at a Time

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“One step at a time.”

An old friend of mine, Katie (Solomon) Seamon, sent me a bracelet after my father passed engraved on the inside with the phrase, “One day at a time.” I wear it ALL the time and every time I read that it helps to bring me back to my center. Somehow I allowed myself to forget about it this week, until I read the quote above in my weekly Moodscope email just now. Not sure what I’d do without my daily email from http://www.moodscope.com. This week has been TOUGH! When it rains, it pours, and it frickin’ POURED this week for me. So my Moodscope email today was PERFECT and JUST what I needed 🙂 Here it is:

Say you needed to untangle a ball of string but just as you began, you inadvertently dropped it into the kitchen sink, full of sudsy water.

Then the bulb went, plunging the room into complete darkness.

Now rather than attempting to solve all three of these issues simultaneously, the answer is almost certainly to uncouple and prioritise.

Dry your hands. Fix the light. Take the string out of the water and probably allow it to dry, too.

Then – and only then – have a go at untangling it.

It seems pretty obvious to tackle a hypothetical situation in this way, so why do we fail to follow a similar course when we’ve multiple issues occupying our minds?

Why do we believe we can solve them all at once?

Why do we persist in thinking that they’re all somehow connected?

It’s easy to imagine that because everything’s not as it should be in one part of our life that the same reasons affect other areas. But this isn’t always the way.

When you’ve multiple worries, it’s not always easy to uncouple one from the other.

Not easy, but almost certainly the only way to move forward.

One step at a time.

Check out the link below, it’s a penguin webcam that my friend Betsy introduced me to this week. I tell you what, if you need to smile, here’s your fix 🙂

3/8/12 – KONY 2012

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“Where you live shouldn’t determine whether you live.” – Jason Russell, Co-Founder, Invisible Children, KONY 2012

I’m pretty positive that the majority of you have seen the KONY 2012 video by now. If by chance you have not, you must. It’s what life is all about I think, helping others to live happy, free lives…We all deserve that. While I watched Jason Russell’s video yesterday this quote stuck with me and I paused the video, typed it into a blog post and saved it immediately. I’ve said this many a time in conversations about helping other countries or when people judge people by their culture or on why they are who they are based on where they were born. Where we are born shouldn’t define us. Every human that is born is important and deserves a chance at life.

PLEASE, I’m begging you, watch this video, share this video, sign the petition I have linked below, because technology can be used for so much good if we use it right and use it wisely. Let your voice be heard, be the voice for so many that aren’t able to have one, and help unite to fight against Joseph Kony and the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA). If we can help to stop this man and the evil he has done just think of what we can do if we work together. Shoot, just watch it to be reminded that there are good people in this world that want to help people. If that’s all you get out of it, I’m fine with that too, but I doubt that’s where your heart and mind will end with this.

This all being said, of course there has been criticism of the video and the mission. But I’ve done my research and I still support this effort whole-heartily. The video is linked below:

WE PETITION THE OBAMA ADMINISTRATION TO:

Help bring Joseph Kony to justice. Continue and expand the necessary support and aid until Kony is captured. Kony 2012.

Continue and expand all military and financial aid that is already being provided for the capture of Joseph Kony, Ugandan war criminal. A pledge by the United States government to continue this aid until he is captured and not a moment sooner.

Sign the Petition by clicking HERE.

3/7/12 – Learning from Jealousy

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“We react to our insecurities. So know and deal with them proactively and gracefully.” – Jennifer Hamady

I read this article this morning and pulled this quote from it. The whole article is great and instead of trying to relate my own stories to you about it I figured I would just share it below. It can also be found here.

Learning From Jealousy

Posted: 03/ 7/2012 7:00 am, Huffington Post, Healthy Living Section
by Jennifer Hamady

There are some truly great things going on in my studio. Lots of Broadway roles, lots of TV appearances, lots of success.

And lots of concerns about jealousy.

You’d think that in the face of such big victories, a little envy coming at them would be small potatoes to these talented men and women. But it’s not. It cuts them to the bone. Every time.

Thankfully, something wonderful lies in wait here. Jealousy — though many people resist it — is a great teacher. One of life’s greatest, in fact.

Here’s what jealousy has to say, when we allow ourselves to set aside our defenses and really listen:

  • Not everyone will like you. And that’s OK.
  • Compassion, in every situation and under every circumstance, is your greatest tool.
  • We react to our insecurities. So know and deal with them proactively and gracefully.

Let’s take a look at each.

What is it about singers — correction, people — that makes us think that everyone will like us when we succeed? Or at least this is our sincere hope, no matter what we may say in interviews, to our families and on Facebook.

It’s not possible. So give it up. Your purpose in your career and on this planet is not to be perfect or to have everyone love you. You are not the exception to the rule on this; try and name one person in the history of the world who was universally loved. It’s not happening. Someone, somewhere, is writing an article about the “lie” of Mother Teresa and the “myth” of Gandhi.

Other people have their own opinions, tastes and reactions, and newsflash: You are not in control of them! No amount of “perfect” (read: delusion) will change this. So please let it go.

Sadly, many don’t. No matter their level of fame or success, I’ve watched countless men and women stew and rot in the incomprehension of why everyone doesn’t love them. Others don’t even bother to go for their dreams or to try much of anything. They sit on the sidelines of life in an effort to avoid being criticized — or heaven forbid, not liked — rather than play full-out.

Which brings us to the next lesson. Jealousy — when it is directed at you — is a sign that you are inspiring people to look at the distance between where they are and where they want to be in their own lives. It may not feel good, but it is an honor in its own way. No one’s jealous of the guy sitting on his butt watching TV all day. No one is jealous of someone down on her luck. We’re jealous of those who have want we want, whether it be material things, success or relationships… as well as the courage to go for them.

If you keep this in mind the next time you experience jealousy, it should more than soften the blow. In fact, it should breed compassion… which you can then use to make a difference.

Finally, jealousy is an invitation for us to explore our own limitations and feelings of inadequacy. “Do I deserve to be here? Am I good enough? Am I prepared?” These questions have lived inside of you for a long, long time. Don’t fault those who are bringing them to light. It was never their job to provide the answers, only to get you consciously asking the questions.

When you do, you’ll stop caring so much about what people say. And eventually, you may even appreciate and thank them for it. There is nothing so powerful — and inspiring — as a person who can hear and utilize the constructive criticism of others. When judgment is warranted, it becomes useful. When it is unfounded, compassion is there waiting.

Every situation is an opportunity to learn if you’re willing to see it as such. Dealing with jealousy — whether directed at someone else or at you — is no exception.

3/6/12 – Unselfish Friends

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“The one absolutely unselfish friend that man can have in this selfish world, the one that never deserts him, the one that never proves ungrateful or treacherous, is his dog.”- George Graham

Just yesterday I was all bummed out because I cut the corner too close pulling into my parking lot, scraping the side of my SUV. It was like I had done the worst thing in the world. I’m not sure why it was so important but I have been programmed that this is just AWFUL. No one got hurt, it’s JUST a car. So silly to get worked up about something so simple. The well-being of cars aren’t important at the end of the day.

Well I was reminded of what is truly important at about 2:30 this morning at the Vet ER with my baby, Bailey, when I was told she had cancer. I can’t imagine ever hearing this about an actual human child, this was tough enough. I sort of froze, I didn’t really understand what the Vet was saying. After I had asked her to say it to me again in like the 4th way possible, delirious from the lack of sleep and emotional roller-coaster of the last 3 hours, I understand what she really said with those words: “Your baby has a cancerous tumor, and it may have spread.” The words oncologist, chemo, tumors, sounded so familiar from when my dad was diagnosed 2 and a half years ago, but this was different. Both hard circumstances but two completely different relationships.

I got Bailey when I was 20 years old, just an irresponsible Sophomore at UT. She was roughly 6 months old, adopted from a local shelter. From that February day on she was my child, my baby girl. You don’t think about it when you first get a puppy that they will grow older and wiser with you and that a bond will be created that you have with no other person or thing. She is truly the most unselfish friend I have. I love this girl more than anything in this world. SHE is what matters, not my stupid car, or my computer, or jewelry or any thing else that I happen to own of monetary value. This was a huge reminder to me to live in the now and to appreciate what you love and what loves you, not taking any of that for granted. Love is what matters, relationships are what matters, and, if you’re lucky enough to have an unselfish friend of your own like I do, understand how special that is. Wish us luck! 🙂

I have linked a great article below about living in the now, please check it out.

3/5/12 – Doubt

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“Doubt, of whatever kind, can be ended by action alone.” –  Thomas Carlyle

I think we all spend too much time worrying, wondering “why?” or “what if?” and creating doubt in our minds without having the courage to find out the truth. Like Carlyle says, all it takes is action to make all of this go away.Instead of assuming how others feel or what they think, ask them. Instead of doubting you are able to do something, try it! Just act. It will save you so much time. I do this every morning at boot camp. At first I doubted myself and my ability and there were some things I was scared to try. Turns out I can do most of them (outside the realm of my injuries of course) but I can.

Just thinking about the progress I wouldn’t haven’t made if I hadn’t acted on my doubts and worries makes me angry. Just do! Just ask! Just share your feelings! As they say, they only stupid question is the one that is never asked. This is the same thing. Be honest and give everything a shot. You don’t know the outcome of anything unless you try. I can promise you that we are all a little stronger, brighter and able than we give ourselves credit for. 

Great article linked below!

3/2/12 – Happy Birthday Dr. Seuss!

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“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” 

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” 

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.” 

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…” 
“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” 
“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” 
“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” 

“A person’s a person, no matter how small.” 
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, 
Nothing is going to get better. It’s not.” 

“Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope.” 

“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead and some come from behind. But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see. Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!” 
“In my world, everyone’s a pony and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies!” 

“Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!” 

“If things start happening, don’t worry, don’t stew, just go right along and you’ll start happening too.” 

“So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life’s A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you’ll move mountains.” 

“Only you can control your future.” 
“All alone! Whether you like it or not, alone is something you’ll be quite a lot!” 

“Why fit in when you were born to stand out?” 

“You’ll miss the best things if you keep your eyes shut.” 

“They say I’m old-fashioned, and live in the past, but sometimes I think progress progresses too fast!” 

“I’m afraid that sometimes you’ll play lonely games too. Games you can’t win ’cause you’ll play against you.” 

“You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.” 

“I know, up on top you are seeing great sights, but down here at the bottom we, too, should have rights.”
I got the picture below after boot camp this morning and it MADE MY DAY! Just my smurf celebrating a big day in his One Fish, Two Fish “hand”made shirt!
 

3/1/12 – Second Chances

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“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”  – Mary Tyler Moore

“If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down but the staying down.” – Mary Pickford

Some of you know my brother, some of you don’t, either way it doesn’t matter. What matters is what he has accomplished today. There is no need for me to air too much on the world wide web about his past but I will go on for days about his present and his future. Throughout the past 7 months he has been turning his life around and making the most of a second chance. There are many people that say there is no such thing as a second chance, and I disagree 100%. It’s what you do with that second, third, fourth chance. Moore is right, it’s how we grow, it’s how we learn and become stronger and braver than we were before. Pickford is right as well, failing isn’t falling down, it’s staying down.

Well my brother could have stayed down this time. Shoot, I can’t say I wouldn’t have if I were him. But he didn’t. He has gotten up, all on his own, and the progress he has made mentally and emotionally is awe-inspiring! He’s the only man I have left in my family and I am SO glad to have him back and in a great place in his life. I know he will only continue to rise from here and I can’t wait to be a part of his journey and see how he grows into the man I know he can be. We all make mistakes, take difficult paths, go through painful  experiences, but they don’t define us and we shouldn’t let them. They help to teach us about life and make us courageous well-rounded human beings. Without pain and challenge there can be no reward. I love you Nate and I can’t wait to be a part of your next chapter! Congratulations and Stay Strong!