Monthly Archives: May 2012

5/16/12 – Slow down and enjoy life!

“Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” – Eddie Cantor

I read this article this morning and it really made me realize, more than I thought I already did, that I need to SLOW DOWN! Crazy Busy isn’t good for my health nor my mind. Plan on implementing these 10 tips starting NOW!

CrazyBusy: 10 Key Principles to Managing Modern Life

Posted: 05/16/2012 8:00 am
by: Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. (Child and adult psychiatrist, bestselling author)

Do you feel too rushed to do what matters most to you?
Do you have more to do than ever — with less time to do it?
Do you answer the simple question: How’re you doing? with a frazzled… CrazyBusy?

Being too busy can become a habit so entrenched that it leads you to postpone or cut short what matters most to you, making you a slave to a lifestyle you don’t like but can’t escape. In part, it is the desire for control that leads people to lose it. Modern life makes us feel as if we can be everywhere and do everything, and gives us the magical tools to heighten the illusion. Then even though you’re doing well, you’re successful and you enjoy life, you feel frustrated at how hard you have to struggle to keep up with all your commitments, opportunities, deadlines, and messages. So if you’re looking for a way to survive in this ultra-competitive, ultra-fast, attention deficit society and remain sane, then I offer these 10 tips to managing modern life:

1. Do what matters most to you (the most common casualty of an excessively busy life):

Don’t spread yourself too thin — you must choose, you must prioritize. In order to both do well and to be happy, you must say, “No thank you,” to many projects, people and ideas. “Cultivate your lilies and get rid of your leeches.”

2. Create a positive emotional environment wherever you are:

When the emotional atmosphere is less than positive, people lose flexibility, the ability to deal with ambiguity and complexity, trust, enthusiasm, patience, humor, and creativity. When you feel safe and secure, you feel welcomed and appreciated, you think better, behave better, and are better able to help others.

3. Find your rhythm:

Get in the “zone,” follow your “flow” — this state of mind elevates all that you do to its highest level. When you find your rhythm, you allow your day to be taken care of by the automatic pilot in your brain, so the creative, thinking part can attend to what it is uniquely qualified to attend to.

4. Invest your time wisely so as to get maximum return:

Try not to let time be stolen from you or let yourself fritter it away — use a time value assessment to guide you in what to add, preserve, cut back on, and eliminate.

5. Don’t waste time screen-sucking (a modern addiction — the withdrawal of looking at a computer/BlackBerry/etc. screen):

Break the habit of having to be near your computer at all times by changing your environment or structure — move your screen to a different room, schedule an amount of time you are allowed to be on the computer, plan mandatory breaks. Do whatever you have to do to break the habit.

6. Identify and control the sources of gemmelsmerch in your environment:

Gemmelsmerch, the force that distracts a person from what he or she wants to or ought to be doing, is as pervasive and powerful as gravity. Some sources of gemmelsmerch are: email, texts, phone, magazines, mail, cell phones, TV, mess in your office — anything that distracts you from the task at hand.

7. Delegate:

Delegate what you don’t like to do or are not good at if you possibly can. Your goal should be not to be independent, but rather effectively interdependent. You do for me and I do for you — this is what makes life possible.

8. Slow down:

Stop and think. As yourself, what’s your hurry? Why wake up, already impatient, and rush around and try to squeeze in more things than you should, thereby leading you to do all of it less well? Your hurry is your enemy.

9. Don’t multitask ineffectively (avoid frazzling):

Give one task your full attention. You will do it better. You may eventually get so good at it that your conscious mind can attend to other aspects of the task other than menial ones. This is the only way a human can multitask effectively.

10. Play:

Imaginatively engage with what you are doing. This will bring out the best part of your mind, focus you on your task, and make you more effective and efficient.

Whether you use these tips or make up our own, I encourage you to figure out what matters most to you, then do what matters most to you. Don’t get sidetracked. You must choose. You must prioritize. In order to do well and be happy, you must say, to many people and activities, “No, thank you.” In today’s crazybusy world, you must deliberately preserve and cultivate your most valuable connections to people, activities and whatever else is most important to you. As you take back control and lead a sane life, you become the person you really want to be. You will enjoy — while they last — the childhoods of your kids, the ripening of your marriage, and these best years of your life. You will give yourself permission to make the most of the short time you have on this planet.

Adapted from CrazyBusy Overstretched, Overbooked and About to Snap! Strategies for Coping in a World Gone ADD, Ballentine, NY, 2006.

5/14/12 – Silence the Mind


“The soul always know what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” – Carolyn Myss

“Soul-Talk: Let Go of Toxicity and Restore Balance to Your Life” is linked below from HuffingtonPost today. GREAT article! I know I have a lot of restoring to do to get my balance back. This article helps to jump start this process.

5/4/12 – Let it go


“The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.” – Lao Tzu

Taken from ‘Let it Go’ by Charles Scott on today: “As we travel through life’s phases, we must let go of so much. And I don’t think it gets easier with practice. But maybe just accepting that eventually we will have to let go is the secret to living a full life.”

Instructions for Lauren—Step 1: Go back to the beginning and re-read. Step 2: Repeat. Have a wonderful weekend and just let it go! Whatever it is, we all have something stewing, LET IT GO!

5/3/12 – Over thinking


“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” – Hamlet, Act II, scene 2

I just so happen to be the Queen of over thinking. Not sure if you all know that 😉 It’s something that I try to work on but I forget to work on it a lot of the time until it’s too late and I’m already over thinking haha Then I over think about over thinking and that’s the worst.

Well I stumbled across this quote in an article yesterday and it was the obvious answer as to why I should put an end to this madness of mine. It’s right, well Shakespeare was, nothing is really good or bad, it is what it is. But it’s thinking that makes us label things. We make things positive or negative by how we choose to interpret them and think about them. Happened today actually…and it took me a few hours to realize that I was making my situation “bad” when it really actually taught me something that will be useful and “good” in the future.

Next time you get down about something and think that it is bad and negative, try and see it from the positive and good side. Or, better yet, try not to label it as either..Just “let it be”! Funny how that three word sentence seems to rule my life 😉

5/1/12 – Don’t Dwell on your Shortcomings


“Take satisfaction in your accomplishments. Don’t dwell on your shortcomings.”

I started at Chi-town Boot Camps the last week of September. It was time for a change in my life. I had let myself go after a few tough years and there was no more room in my life for excuses. I’m an NASM educated personal trainer whether I currently practice now or not, so there are especially NO excuses for someone with this knowledge.

Since that time I have lost over 12 inches across my body and dropped who knows how many sizes. (Enough to require a new wardrobe, I know that much.) I worked my butt off for ME and ME alone and met goals that I had set for myself.

The first or so of every month we get remeasured and weigh in to know the status of our progress. Month by month for the past 7 months I have dropped inches and pounds, true accomplishments…Until today, the numbers went up a little. I was DEVASTATED. I dropped my head, couldn’t believe it, felt defeated and went back to my work out with a little less pep than usual. My trainer, Cody, pulled me aside to talk to me about it and to remind me to keep pushing through, that it’s a constant process and to not feel defeated. Something I really needed to hear and support that everyone needs. He’s right! I needed to re-evaluate some things and keep at it.

It’s like this quote says, I don’t need to dwell on a minor shortcoming, or bump in the road to reaching my goals. Everyone faces them. If goals were easy to meet, we wouldn’t have to make them and work towards them. I need take satisfaction in my accomplishments. I have accomplished A LOT since 9/26/11 and I’m damn proud of myself. It’s easier said than done, but I need to pick my head back up and stay motivated towards my goals. Changing your life isn’t easy, no one said it would be, but it is sure as hell worth it! Thank you Cody! And thank you to all the amazing girls (and a few guys haha) that I have met at CBC throughout this process so far. You all keep me coming back each week more than you realize.

This quote remind me of Puff Daddy’s song “Can’t Nobody Hold Me Down.” Remember that song? I have linked below as a reminder.