“Don’t let your fear of being judged stop you from asking for help when you need it.”
With surgery around the corner I am reminded that I can’t do everything on my own and that, although I prefer to give and do for others, I have to find it in me to ask for help. I was reminded this many times this weekend by my many AMAZING friends that have already reached out to offer their time, energy and support. I am one lucky girl and I have to put down my pride shield and take it all in!
My moodscope.com email today said the following: (Couldn’t be more perfect for me today.)
If you needed to move a heavy item of furniture, you probably wouldn’t attempt to do so on your own.
There are some tasks which clearly require more than one pair of hands.
It’s pretty obvious to ask for help when the work is of a physical nature.
Then why doesn’t it seem equally sensible to do so then the heavy lifting is more cerebral?
When you’ve got too much to think about, too much to worry about, it can be tempting to keep it all to yourself.
But that’s not good. In many situations, a problem shared is a problem halved. (Not always of course, but it’s a rule that holds good a great deal of the time.)
Sometimes the simple act of talking through your concerns, worries and anxieties can help you get them into perspective.
Then of course there are other situations in which you really can ask someone else to take the load off your shoulders.
You’re human, not super-human. If you’re carrying a heavy load, there’s nearly always someone who’ll help.
But usually you need to ask. And that’s fine.
Thank you for the inspiring words. I have been trying to find the right words for someone who is carrying a heavy burden in his life. He often has difficulty asking for help and tries to do everything himself. Fear of failure, fear of rejection and judgement makes him parlayed in asking for help. Pride has also has kept him from saying, “I am struggling and I need help.”
I’m so glad that you found this post helpful. I’m constantly guilty of this and always need a reminder 🙂