by Rory Vaden

You chose the life that you have right now. Your choices have all led you to be exactly where you are at this very moment. While there certainly are uncontrollable parts about life, the reality is that the majority of your life is the direct result of the decisions you have or haven’t made.

Because your choices ultimately accumulate to create the trajectory of your life, you have no one to thank or blame but yourself.

So stop complaining. Stop whining. Do you really think that no one else is going through what you’re going through? Do you really think you have it more difficult than everyone around you?

You wanted success. So now you are dealing with the challenges that are required to achieve success.

You wanted a family. Now you have the blessings and the responsibilities of raising a family.

You put that in your body. Now you get to live with the consequence.

You made that purchase. Now you get to be responsible for paying the price.

You said those words. Now you can never take them back.

So why is it then that you complain? Why do you vent your frustrations to the world about how hard you have it? About how busy you are? Why do you allow yourself to indulge in the self-centeredness that nobody else understands your situation?

Stop it. Because you’re stressing me out.

It’s time to let all of that go.

It’s time to start making the choice that you are going to be a person who rises above the stress, above the pain, above the fatigue. You are going to be a person that is stronger than your circumstances and bigger than your weaknesses. You are going to be a person who is capable and powerful and decided.

Today, you are going to be a person who chooses that it is not worth worrying and not worth complaining.

You can do it. Just remind yourself…

1. Say thank you 
You’re either choosing to be thankful for what you do have or you are worrying about what you don’t have. You have incredible blessings all around; look for them.

2. Think long-term 
Your problems are so big but only in the context of today. You’ll barely remember them next week. You’ll forget them within the year. Over time it’s never as bad as it sounds or as good as it seems, it it?

3. You’re on the right track
You should know by now that the bigger the goals you set, the bigger the problems you’ll be forced to faced. Don’t complain about them; embrace them.

Complaining doesn’t change anything.

So go. Do something. And stop complaining. Because you’re above that.

(This is what I wrote to myself this morning. Hope you don’t mind me sharing.)