“Don’t Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
– Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Just like I will use John Lennon and Gandhi quotes all the time, I will also quote Don Miguel Ruiz. His books are BRILLIANT, this one in particular. I have to recite this quote to myself a lot and I find that I say it a lot to friends as well. It is so important to remember this “agreement.”
If someone says or does something hurtful to you, remember that this is a projection of what’s going on in their life and it has NOTHING to do with you. Don’t internalize what other people say unless you know it is warranted. There is nothing worse than trying to figure out what you did wrong when you actually didn’t do anything wrong, apologizing for something you didn’t do or judging yourself based on someone else’s words and opinion.
We all succumb to unneeded suffering and a skewed sense of oneself based on the harmful words and actions of others. If we can remind ourselves daily that we have control over only one person in this life, we can avoid this needless pain and distress and spend more time focusing on being the best person we can be.
Really, if you haven’t read this book, click below and buy it, borrow it, get it somehow.
“Life is about the people you meet, and the things you create with them, so go out and start creating.” – A sentence from The Holstee Manifesto
I LOVE to meet new people. Literally, it’s like a hobby of mine. It’s amazing what you can learn from other people and about yourself. I’m going to keep this one short today because I think it is simple. Cherish your friendships! I know that every relationship I have, no matter how big or small, means the world to me; each of them in a different way than the next.
Like the Holstee Manifesto says: Open your mind, arms and heart to new people, share your passions and unite in your differences. Make the best of every relationship and situation you have. Start creating, it’s what this life is all about 🙂
The picture below will take you to the page where you can order the Manifesto. I think EVERYONE should have it! I just got mine for my birthday. Thanks, Stacy!
“If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse.”
There are some things in life that I just WON’T miss, I REFUSE! No matter what I have to do to make it work, I will. This actually happened a few times this year. Two of my bestest friends in this world got married (for which I couldn’t be happier by the way) and I wasn’t going to miss the bachelorette parties or weddings. No way, not an option! They mean too much to me not to be a part of their special days, so I found a way. Maybe money was tight, maybe my bosses got a little upset (sorry about that guys) but those reasons weren’t going to keep me from being there.
But it’s not just events like this that this quote refers to. There are some things I shouldn’t allow myself to miss other than weddings and parties, like THE GYM! My trainer actually posted this quote on Facebook this weekend and i couldn’t relate more when it comes to fitness. There were so many times the past few years when my health, for who knows what reason, wasn’t as important to me and I found excuses not to work out, I think we all do this. But then I had to take a step back and think to myself, “Wow, that is an AWFUL excuse and really only an excuse. Do I want to be healthy? Do I want to feel good about myself? Well then I have to find a way to make it happen because I know that it is truly important to me.”
So glad he posted this. It applies to ALL areas of life: Personal, Financial, Professional, etc. Thanks for the reminder, Cody!
The picture below links to one of the songs that motivates me the most…”Pump It.” Go ahead, give it a listen and get motivated!
“It’s brainless to assume that making changes to your window’s view will give a new perspective.” – Death Cab for Cutie
I get an email everyday from http://www.moodscope.com. You really should check it out. The quote above reminded me a lot of what was in one of the emails from last week:
“Generally things look different when you look at them, well, differently.
You’ve arranged to meet up with a friend but he has to cancel. You’re disappointed. So do you get angry that he’s let you down? Or do you stop and think that one reason for your disappointment could be that he actually means something to you?
Whatever’s going on in your life, there’s often more than one way of viewing it. But I often forget this, losing sight of the fact that it can make sense to take a step back so you can see the wood from the trees.
So the next time something untoward happens, walk round it as if it was a sculpture in an art gallery. Nine times out of ten it will look different from another angle.”
Don’t be so quick to react, try and look at every situation from a different angle, someone else’s perspective.
“Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of readiness to die.” – G.K. Chesterton
“In war, there are no unwounded soldiers.” – Jose Narosky
“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” – Cynthia Ozick
I think today speaks for itself. But these are 3 of my favorite Veteran/Military quotes that I wanted to share. Happy Veterans Day, everyone! A special moment of remembrance today for my Pop Pop, Grandpa and Dad…MY veterans!
I would just ask all of you to REALLY think about the 2nd quote. “In war, there are no unwounded soldiers.” They need our support and attention more than ever when they return home to our soil. That’s when their next battle begins.
Ultimately, this next quote is my favorite:
“I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, ‘Mother, what was war?'” – Eve Merriam
I can only wish that one day there will be no more war. Until then, I am honored to know so many that risk or have given up their lives for our country. I know not the courage it takes to be that strong!
(The picture below takes you to Toby Keith’s ‘American Soldier.’ Enjoy!)
“Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go.”
– Oprah Winfrey
Now if this doesn’t dig deep, I don’t know what does. Damn that Oprah! Just love her! I don’t even want to get into what my attachments are that are depleting my emotional reserves. Most of you that know me well enough know what they are and those of you that don’t, well consider yourself lucky haha I’m too embarrassed to admit them to the world wide web, won’t lie.
But, just looking at this quote from a broad, universal perspective, how true it is. We only have so much to give of ourselves emotionally and holding on to the past, whether it be friendships, partners or those that have passed, just depletes the emotions we have that could be given to someone or something that deserves them.
Sometimes you just gotta let em’ go, let it be! Think of how great it will be when those emotions can be used towards someone that will reciprocate them; how much stronger your friendships and relationships could be. I’m not saying letting your attachments go is easy, nor am I saying to let go of memories. Just don’t let memories drain you emotionally.
“Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.” – Unknown
I have a coffee mug with this quote on it, true story! I love it so much that I even cut the cardboard box it came in and framed the quote from off of the box, another true story haha. I look at it in my room every day and it reminds me to stop and BREATH!
There is a woman my company does work with who I have become close with. After one of our meetings a few weeks back we were sitting and catching up quickly, talking about life and the sort. She mentioned a man that she had met who had “3 Deep Breaths” printed on his business cards. When she asked him why, he mentioned that everyone needs to stop each day and take 3 deep breaths. I thought this was brilliant! Putting a quote that can apply to everyone on your business cards? Just brilliant! You’re selling free peace of mind and relaxation. How can you read that and not stop and take 3 deep breaths.
I thought of that story when I chose to use this quote today. Life will always be loud, there will always be work to be done, trouble will always creep its way into our lives, but we have to be able to find a place of peace and quiet within ourselves when we can’t find it anywhere else. Be calm in your heart and you will know the true meaning of peace. Take a moment today to take 3 DEEP breaths. It’s amazing how something so simple can make you feel that much better.
(Oh and if you want this coffee mug, click on the image below!)
“Square your shoulders to the world, be not the kind to quit; It’s not the load that weighs you down, but the way you carry it.” – Anonymous
I love how my friends reach out to me now and give me quotes to use that really mean a lot to them. It’s funny to see how the quotes that relate to their lives and situations are the same ones that I can relate to, that we ALL can relate to. This quote is especially powerful.
I’d be lying if I said there weren’t some days I sat here and thought to myself, ‘I just can’t do it.’ There are some days where every thing seems to be too much. When times are easy and good, they’re REALLY easy and good; and when times are tough, they seem to be REALLY tough! But, as this quote says, it’s not what hinders you but how you handle it. All things shall pass, you just have to figure out how to work through your problems step by step, one day at a time. Don’t let your struggles define you, figure out how to face and defeat them. Quitting isn’t an option.
Look at some of the things that are bringing you down right now and reevaluate how you ‘carry them,’ how you are dealing with them. If what you’re doing doesn’t currently seem to be working, try something else. But face them, don’t act like they don’t exist!
“Watching a child’s laughter can teach a candle’s flame how to dance.” – Dr. Sun Wolf
I was never a huge fan of kids when I was younger, I have to admit that. I guess I just wasn’t around babies and children enough to really get comfortable. It wasn’t until the past 5 years or so that I really started to warm up to the little ones. Nowadays, with my friends beginning to have their own and my Facebook feed full of baby pictures, I’m not sure I could do without the little boogers. Oh how the times have changed! (No, Mom, this doesn’t mean I’m anywhere near wanting my own!)
There is something about the innocence of a child that just makes me feel at ease. They love in a way that only babies and puppies can. Their laughs are pure and honest and they can be a reminder to us all of what life was like when we were children, when we saw the positive side of everything, when everything was fun. We made forts that became castles and just a sheet on our backs made us super heroes. Our parents could do no wrong and we didn’t understand what the news meant or how to feel hate and anger, other than the ten minute fit that resulted from someone stealing our toy.
A child’s laugh can make a bad day so much better! Reminding the inner child in all of us how to dance and how to not take things so seriously. This life is all we’ve got, it’s not like we’re coming out alive! Thank you, Jackson Blaine McGee, (and your mother for sending me my daily Blaine pic) for reminding me to breath and to see the world through your eyes. And oh how pretty they are my love!
Love you, Smurf!
– Your Auntie Fabulous! 😉
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman
With all that is going on in our world today I think too many of us sit back and wait for someone to tell us what to do to do our part. We try to often do things that we may not even be good at just because we think that is what we should be doing. But that is the opposite of what we should all be doing.
Do what makes you happy, what this quote says: ‘makes you come alive.’ Because when we do things that we enjoy doing and we are good at, we are all happier and more productive. That’s what this world needs. Happier more productive people!
Writing this blog is one of the things that makes me comes alive! And it took me way too long to start doing it. But better late than never right?